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John C. Duffany

July 14, 1945 ~ November 26, 2021 (age 76)


Thomaston – Mr. John C. Duffany, 76, passed away peacefully on Friday, November 26, at Vitas Innovative Hospice at St. Mary’s Hospital, surrounded by his loving wife Kathleen (Landers) Duffany of 50 years, and their three children.

John was born July 14, 1945 in Torrington, and was son to the late Lawrence F. and Ruth (Maine) Duffany. A lifelong resident of Thomaston, he attended local schools and graduated from Thomaston High School in the class of 1963. He went on to obtain his Bachelor’s degree from Danbury State Teachers College (now Western Connecticut State University), class of 1967. He subsequently received his Master’s Degree and his Sixth Year certificate from Southern Connecticut State University.  

John began his teaching career at Black Rock School in 1967 and continued to teach various grades at the Thomaston Middle and High Schools, until he retired in 2001.  He also served on the Thomaston High School building committee as well as the St. Thomas church council.

For many years, John was a ski instructor at Mohawk Ski Mountain. Teaching children and adults to love the sport brought him tremendous joy. He also loved to play golf and was a long time member of the Pequabuck Golf Club where he (mostly!) enjoyed the activity.

John was a gifted writer and musician. He wrote and performed songs for each of his children’s weddings and was often found in front of his piano tickling the ivories.  His talent and love for music brought everyone around him into harmony. In July 2018, John fulfilled his lifelong dream and published a children’s book inspired by his grandchildren.

John enjoyed traveling and exploring new places. He loved to learn and experience different cultures and traditions. After he retired, John continued the beautification of his yard and home. He and Kathy spent winters in Florida, to escape the cold and always called to remind their children just how warm it was where they were. 

John took great pride instilling the importance of family and traditions to his children and grandchildren. From the Duffany Christmas party, annual RI vacations, to the Turkey Gobbler, John established a strong family foundation with memories that will last through generations.

He will be best remembered for the love of his family, his great sense of humor, and his desire to make those around him smile. John was a fun-loving person who enjoyed his friendships immensely, always appreciated a good laugh, and was the quintessential jokester.  

In addition to his loving wife, he is survived by his children, Sean E. Duffany and his wife Joy of Prospect, Erin D. Benvegnu and her husband Felipe of Watertown, and Shannon R. Duffany and her partner JR Lovelace of Cheshire; his five grandchildren, Julia and Mary Benvegnu, Annabell Duffany, and Brendan and Kathleen Sadowski; his brother Thomas Duffany of Thomaston; his sisters, Margaret Stager of Thomaston, and Kathleen Chipelo, of Torrington; and many nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his brother Lawrence Duffany.

Calling hours will be held on Wednesday, December 1, from 1:00 P.M. to 3:00 P.M. and 6:00 P.M. to 8:00 P.M. at the Lyons Funeral Home 46 High St. Thomaston. A Mass of Christian burial will be held on Thursday at 11:00 A.M. at St. Thomas Church in Thomaston. Burial will follow in St. Thomas Cemetery.

Memorial Contributions may be made in John’s name to the St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital P.O. Box 1000, Dept. 142 Memphis, TN 38148-0142 or to Vitas Healthcare 199 Park Rd. Suite 102 Middlebury, CT 06762. 


December 1, 2021

1:00 PM to 3:00 PM
Lyons Funeral Home
46 High Street
Thomaston, CT 06787

December 1, 2021

6:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Lyons Funeral Home
46 High Street
Thomaston, CT 06787

Mass of Christian Burial
December 2, 2021

11:00 AM
Saint Thomas Church
1 East Main Street
Thomaston, CT 06787


St. Thomas Cemetery

Thomaston, CT


St. Jude Children's Research Hospital
501 St. Jude Place, Memphis TN 38105
Tel: 1-800-805-5856

Vitas Healthcare
199 Park Rd. Extension Suite 102, Middlebury CT 06762

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